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How to #upgrade your life.

I’ve been saying to myself for the past 3 years that I wanted a new wardrobe. A new style of dress. 24, still wearing fast fashion from high school, that’s not inspiring. I’d also complain about my environment and wish for a more decorative space. I’ve never owned a sofa. In my room, my apartment, my co-apartment. My living space has never been furnished in a homely manner. Which is crazy considering I have such a strong interest in home design.

So it’s 2020, and I’m starting to consider life from a different perspective. The best way to make change is to look inside yourself and get real with your personal flaws. Which parts of your personality can you leverage, and which of your traits/habits cause your setback? Some traits/habits can do both. It’s a good thing to know the DIFFERENCE between the two. A trait is a part of your personality that comes with your birth package. You are born with this “thing” that you may need to work hard(er) to master. A habit is a part of your everyday behavior that is LEARNED. This means you can easily unlearn it, with some effort. 

Example: Impulsiveness for me is a trait (behavior exhibited since early childhood) while procrastination is a habit (a result of my training and response to my environment). 

Impulsiveness or spontaneity can work for you if you’re a self starter and not afraid to take risks. It can work against you as you’re more likely to make mistakes in effort to reach a goal.

Procrastination works to balance out the impulsiveness and gives you a chance to think things through before taking action. It works against you, by forming the idea “if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it”. This idea saves money at times, but just because something isn’t broken doesn’t mean it should be kept. It just needs to be donated instead. 

This is how you can upgrade your life, no matter what your financial situation is. The theory is using impulsiveness to get rid of all the tangible (i.e. clothes, household appliances) and intangible (i.e. bad energy, narrow minded influences) clutter that isn’t working for you, so that you don’t remain comfortable with keeping it. The longer you keep the items you want to upgrade, the longer it will take for you to make the effort to upgrade them. Because, “if it isn’t broke you won’t fix it”. 

There’s a lot of things I don’t want to bring into this new decade, some of them physical. So I’m making a pile…

And tossing them out. 

Tell me, how are you upgrading your life?


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  • Reply
    Sherry M Lee
    March 24, 2020 at 2:43 am

    It’s time for me to do another big purge of items that are no longer serving me or my household. I always feel so much better! It truly is a great way to upgrade my life and also a great way to enhance the lives of others who will better benefit from the items.

    • Reply
      Aren Lodge
      March 24, 2020 at 9:06 pm

      Hi Sherry! I agree! Especially with a family, there’s great benefits to de-cluttering mind, spirit, and home. Thanks for commenting! 🙂

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